How does it feel when you lose something? This question poked my mind when I discovered some days back that I did not win a contest. Initially I submerged into feeling dejected filling myself with all of those negative thoughts I could really count on and feel sympathetic with. And the most common one - ‘Oh! This happens with me only. I don’t get the good things in life.’
And then probably something struck me in a moment to analyze this loss in a positive direction. So now how does it feel when I put it in most simple words that a loss gives a chance to improve. Even if I lost the competition I am a winner because I got a chance to learn something new.
We always endeavor a failure into building boundaries for ourselves. We look at it as the end of the world or an end to our attempt in the direction – an attempt to learn and give it a shot again. But this time my failure gave me a turning point and awakened me from the feeling of dejection. I looked at all my competitors and their submissions. It turned out to be a learning phase for me – to learn what I lacked in my attempt, what others had put in their attempt, the style the winners presented their attempts. Had I won the competition, I wouldn't have even looked at other competitors’ submissions, failing to give me chance to learn from all those competitors and their experiences.
More than failing in an attempt, a bigger aspect is not attempting due to a fear to failure. You look at that eagle flying leisurely in the sky on bright-sunny-quiet day. It doesn't have the fear of failure in its flight because it has not created the boundaries to fly. It is a symbol of freedom. The freedom of a bird with no boundaries set to fly…our attempts should be such. Win or fail, we need to learn, we need to fly. And if in any case we do fail, there’s an instant ‘win’ sitting right at the corner if we look at it - learning from our failure, learning to flap the wings correctly. In our young ages we had aspirations. As we grew big those aspirations were surrounded by boundaries of fear…slowing down our leaps of imaginations and giving them a try.
Then there was a different perspective that JK Rowling gave in one of her speeches I heard a few days back and she spoke about the benefits of failure. She said the failure in her life gave her a realization to turn into the direction which she had always believed in “…So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential…. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realized, and I was still alive...”